Tuesday, December 18, 2012

A Bad Egg or a Rotten Parent?

I really like eggs.  I eat them a lot.  Every now and then, but not often, you come across a bad egg and have to throw it away.  The recent tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT, has me wondering if this same paradigm applies to people.  Every now and then are people just born bad eggs, destined for evil and wrong-doing regardless of their upbringing?  My instincts tell me no.  Although I think everyone has a certain aptitude for darkness, I believe there’s always a root cause for evil behavior.  So what it really comes down to is parenting.  Have you loved your children and taught them how to love in return?  Have you disciplined your children and taught them the difference between right and wrong?  Have you hugged them when they needed a hug, cared for them when they were hurt or ill, demonstrated that there are consequences for every action, and ultimately shaped them into contributing members of society?  Most importantly have you taught them the value of human life?  If you haven’t done each of these things then you’ve failed at the most important job you’ll ever have.  And you have no one to blame for their evil deeds but yourself.
People want to make this a gun control issue or a mental health issue but those are just symptoms.  The root cause goes back to the same thing, poor parenting.  If you want to keep guns around your house (I don’t but I respect other’s rights to do so) just be sure to keep the guns locked up safely away from your children, and when they’re the proper age teach them how to handle the guns safely.  If your child has mental health issues get them the professional help they need, and for God’s sake keep them out of harm’s way (DON’T keep guns in your house).  Parenting isn’t easy and I can’t even imagine how difficult it must be to parent a child with mental health issues.  But you brought them into this world so they’re your responsibility.

Keanu Reeves character (Tod) in “Parenthood” put it best: “You know, Mrs. Buckman, you need a license to buy a dog, to drive a car – hell, you even need a license to catch a fish.  But they’ll let any butt-reaming asshole be a father.”
In summary, don’t be a butt-reaming asshole.  If every parent simply took accountability for their offspring and raised them properly, we wouldn’t even be talking about tragedies like what occurred in Newtown, CT.

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